4.29.2009

Why Hire A Coach?

"Who exactly seeks out a Coach?....Winners who want even more out of life." -- Chicago Tribune 12/17/00

"Executives and HR managers know Coaching is the most potent tool for inducing positive personal change..."-- The Ivy Business Journal Sept-Oct 2000
"Once reserved for executives and professional athletes, personal coaches...are going mainstream." -- Christian Science Monitor 1/25/99
"Entrepreneurs...are hiring coaches to help guide them in everything from changing careers to starting a business to balancing work and family." -- Christian Science Monitor 1/25/99
"The hottest thing in management is the executive coach." -- Fortune 5/12/00

4.27.2009

Are You Stressed Out?

Dear Friend,
  "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. ~Albert Einstein"
 
Have you ever been stressed out? I know for sure that I have been! Many of us suffer from some level of elevated stress in the course of our lives. Stress comes in many forms. It can be both positive and negative and can be one large issue or many smaller issues. 
 
Stress is essentially a reaction to any change in our environment.   Let's break down the stress cycle: ·         An event occurs ·         We interpret the event ·         We generate feelings based upon our interpretation ·         We have behaviors based upon our feelings
 
When we are stressed what happens? When we are stressed we have physical, emotional and mental responses to this event or stressor.  
 
Physically
stress causes adrenalin to rushes through our body - which in the short term improves our vision and short term memory. Next, sugars and fat release into our bloodstream. Our heart jumps into action and pumps faster to provide more blood to our body. To allow more oxygen to enter our blood system our breathing increases. In preparation for action, our muscles tense and our sense of smell and hearing improve. In the short term stress can be good for us physically - providing us energy and increased awareness. Yet over the long term if we don't manage our stress our health (physical, mental and emotional) suffers. 
  Mentally and Emotionally The greatest source of stress is what we create for ourselves through patterns of negative thinking. Consider these six ways this manifests: 1.   Overgeneralization - seeing a specific event as a never ending pattern of defeat 2.   Hyper-focus - picking a specific detail and focusing on it exclusively 3.   Emotional Reasoning - assuming that your negative feelings reflect the way things really are 4.   Self-Blame - holding yourself responsible for something that isn't entirely in your control 5.   Helplessness - failing to see your choices 6.   Perfectionism - expecting too much from ourselves and others   While we may not be able to eliminate stress we must manage it for improvement of our physical, mental and emotional health.
10 Tips for Stress Management  1.  Exercise 2.  Deep Breathing
3.  Meditation
4.  Positive Thinking
5.  Yoga
6.  Sleep
7.  Laughter
8.  Talking with people who really listen to and understand you
9.  Recognizing your limits and accepting them
10. Mindfulness
Make It Happen
So now let's look at your life - can you identify some stressors in your life? What shows up on your list?   To give you a start:
Some positive stressors might include: job promotion, marriage, birth of a child, move Some negative stressors might include: job loss, illness, move, This week take some time to identify stressors in your life and for each stressor see if you can create one way to manage it. Remember, that you may not be able to eliminate the stress, but you can manage it. Use the 10 Tips for Stress Management as a point of departure to create your own stress management plan. Next week we are going to talk more in-depth about the 10 Tips for Stress Management. If you have additional tips on reducing stress share them by sending an email to margaret@margaretpundmann.com and I'll include them (with your name if you desire) in next weeks article.
Blessings to you,
Margaret.     
 
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4.22.2009

Do You Need to Amp Up Your Attitude?

Dear Friend,
  No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the start, or sailed to an unchartered land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit.
~Helen Keller
 
Our attitude is the outer reflection of our inner life. Attitude is, largely, the lump sum of how and what we are feeling about the million things rumbling through our mind, body and spirit.   We get to choose what we feel. That's right - our feelings like our attitude are a choice. A decision we make repeatedly as we proceed through life.   Throughout our day, we face many situations which leave us with the ultimate question - how do I choose to feel about this person, place or circumstance? The decision we make in a snap second is what drives our attitude.   Appreciating the harmony of life without judgment is the hidden secret to a joyous attitude. The moment we step into a place of judgment or criticism we enter into defeating thoughts and feelings which ultimately crush our joy. When we wallow in what we do not have or what isn't working for us rather than focusing on our blessings (and we all have blessings) we again choose to be down rather than up!  
Consider this story: A shoe factory sent two executives to a remote region of anunder-developed country to study the prospects for business expansion. One executive sent an email saying: "No opportunity for expansion - no one wears shoes." The other executive emails triumphantly: "They have no shoes - tremendous business opportunity."   Which executive are you?
  Make It Happen
  This week take time to choose your attitude. When faced with a difficult situation - make a decision to see the opportunity rather than the obstacle. When you are in the midst of adversity - consider the question, "What lesson am I to learn from this experience?" Remember your attitude is your choice! Amp it Up!
Blessings to you,
Margaret.     
 
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4.13.2009

Happy Holidays!

Dear Friend,
In the past week we've had both Passover and Easter. My hope is that you
were able to take time away from the day-to-day and celebrate with loved
ones. The holidays provide such a wonderful opportunity to connect with
those who we love and cherish.
My heart is leaping for joy after a truly wonderful holiday. I'm sending you
blessings, love and peace.
All the best,
Margaret.

4.05.2009

Are You a Motivator?

Dear Friend,
 
Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.
~Mark Twain
 
 
Last week we discussed the notion of self - motivation. This week we are going to explore how to motivate those around us.   Motivation is extremely personalized. Therefore, what motivates one person is not guaranteed to motivate another. So as we seek to motivate others we need to explore what makes them tick. And perhaps the easiest way to find out is to ask your team directly what motivates them. Under your "Make It Happen" challenge for this week you will find four questions to help you tap into what motivates a particular individual.   While each individual is different there are some common tips that will lead you to strong and powerful leadership! Some strategies that will help you motivate those around you:
  10 Tips To Be a Motivator
  1. Lead by example -When you talk the talk...make sure you walk the walk.
  2. Lead with a positive attitude - Remember Attitude is Everything!
  3. Consider the individual - Use the questions below to help you understand each individual on your team.
  4. Value your team - Show those around you that you care about and value them.
  5. Celebrate individual and team successes - Take time to celebrate together - it builds a sense of community.
  6. Be open to suggestions - Create an open environment where feedback is valued.
  7. Listen - Embrace open communication - ask questions and shut up!
  8. Explain the what and why of change - When change comes - take time to communicate with those on your team.
  9. Uncover new talents - Create an environment where people can try new things and showcase existing talents.
  10. Be authentic! - Who you are is why you became a manager - don't forget to be human and be yourself always! 

Consider how you can use these 10 tips to be a leader for those around you. How can you integrate these tips into your leadership style?

Make It Happen
 
Four questions to ask those you need to motivate:
  • What would you like more of in your job?
  • What would you like less of in your job?
  • What motivates you to succeed?
  • What can I do to help you succeed?

Allow these questions to begin an open dialogue between you and your team members.   Over the next week focus on how you impact those around you. Take time to consciously be a motivator. If you are up for an extra challenge, select one of the 10 tips above to focus on over the next week!

Blessings to you!

3.29.2009

Are You Motivated?

Dear Friend,
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice!
~Wayne Dyer
This week is the first in a two part series on motivation. This week we will focus on self-motivation - what it takes to get us amped up. Next week we will turn to motivating staff and those around us and we'll explore the question, "How can you be a Motivator!"
To begin we must answer the question, What in the world is motivation? Motivation is the drive - the fire that gets us inspired and pumped up to charge after a specific goal. However, what specifically motivates us is quite personal. Ultimately, motivation means different things to each of us. Motivation plays an important role in our life because it helps us to:
  • Achieve Goals
  • Gain a Positive Perspective
  • Create Power to Change
  • Build Self-Esteem
  • Manage Our Development

When we are motivated, we work harder are more productive and achieve results more rapidly.

Make It Happen
Do you have a large goal that you want to get excited about pursuing? If yes, then it sounds like you could benefit from some motivation! Because we are each unique individuals there is no single motivating factor for everyone. Therefore a great way to uncover what specifically motivates you is to examine what has worked in the past.
  • Think back to a large goal that you accomplished in the past...something that you were extremely proud of.
  • What was it, really, that motivated you to achieve this goal?

Now that you've seen what has worked for you in the past, take some time to explore this large goal of yours and what motivating factors you need - internal and external to achieve the goal. Make time this week to uncover the answers to the following questions. These six questions will kick-start YOU into tapping into YOUR unique motivating factors to achieve YOUR goals!

  1. Why is this goal really, really important to me - right now?
  2. What do I need to do to achieve this goal?
  3. What am I willing to do to achieve this goal?
  4. What support structure do I have in place to reach this goal?
  5. What is my plan? (Take time to build out a detailed plan.)
  6. How will I know I've achieved this goal?

Blessings to you as you look inside for motivation and inspiration to achieve your goals!

Are You Ready For Growth?

Dear Friend,
Do you want my one-word secret of happiness -
It's growth - mental, financial, you name it. ~Harold Geneen
Welcome to Spring a season of growth! Last week I asked you to look at your life and do a little "Spring Cleaning." How did that go? Was it hard , easy or a dead end? I really urge you to embrace this change in season and examine where you need to prune your life. Pruning our life is like pruning a plant. Essentially, pruning is the act of removing old materials to enable the plant's new growth to bloom and flourish. Consider that we are like a plant and we like most plants benefits from regular pruning and maintenance. Because when we prune we enable growth. Gardeners around the world delight in seeing how they can help their plants grow into lush mature plants. They enjoy the process of pruning because they know it adds to the health of the plant and increases the beauty of the plant. According to writer and gardener Gary Davis as it relates to plants, "the idea is to identify branches or stems that are dead or have slowed down in their functioning ... and then it is time to remove them by cutting them off." The result is that the root system can more efficiently and effectively feed what is left of the plant. This is exactly how we work. We must identify what is slowing us down and prune it. That is what the process of "Spring Cleaning" entails. Sometimes we are reluctant to totally give up some area of our life because we fear that new will bring different and we are creatures of habit and are comfortable in our old routines. Be patient with yourself and take the steps you need to bloom bigger and more beautifully! Life will be better and you will grow and emerge into your BEST self. Grow, thrive and flourish!
Make It Happen
This week review your "Spring Cleaning" from last week and give it another go.When we truly prune we are able to delight in the growth that comes. Examine what you need to remove from your life. Items to prune may be quite small - that is okay with the excess removed you will have more room for growth! Good luck and Blessings as we embark on this new Season in our life!

3.16.2009

4 Secrets to Personal Growth - Free Teleclass Tonight!!!

4 Secrets to Personal Growth
Monday, 3/16 @ 6PM CT/7PM ET

Join Tammy Potosky and Margaret Pundmann for a FREE teleclass to discuss these topics:

- What keeps us from raising our standard of living?

- Who would you be if you were living from the present versus living from the past?

- What would your day look like if you incorporated 10 nourishing daily habits?

- What would you have time to do if you simplified your life dramatically?

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Are You Ready For Spring Cleaning?

Dear Friend,
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." ~Carl Bard
 
 
In the Northern Hemisphere Spring officially begins March 20th. Spring suggests rebirth, a renewing, and a recommitting. With this new season we welcome new relationships, new opportunities and new possibilities into our life. But before we can welcome the new we must do a little 'Spring Cleaning' and let go of what is not serving us. 
 
As we let go we get a fresh start - a clean slate if you will. We create room in our lives for new possibilities. What new possibility do you want to usher into your life - personally or professionally?   Perhaps you want to find a job, a home, a mate, a routine or maybe you want a renewed spiritual life, renewed physical activity, a renewed social life - all of which are within your grasp. It is easy to get discouraged by big goals and dreams, but you must never underestimate how close you are and how much fun you are going to have once you reach this goal. Remember that while the next step you desire may feel new and different, you bring you to this challenge your wealth of wisdom, brilliance and magnificence.
 
Right now, I'm asking you to revisit your goals - do a little 'Spring Cleaning' - physically, mentally and emotionally. Toss what is now irrelevant! Take 30 seconds to find two things that you are going to let go of because you realize, whatever the reason, this 'clutter' isn't serving you!   How good does that feel to let go of "shoulds" and "coulds?" Excellent, right? Because when you let go and do a little 'Spring Cleaning' you find that you have more space - physically, mentally and emotionally!
 
Make It Happen
 
 
Take the next week to examine and reexamine your goals and your life. Do a little 'Spring Cleaning' of your own. Don't be afraid to go beyond the surface and dig deep so that you clean it for good, rather than for just a season. Release goals, pursuits, relationships and things that don't fulfill you and feel the freedom of more space - physically, mentally and emotionally!

10 Ways To Be Fearless

http://www.oprah.com/slideshow/spirit/knowyourself/pkgempoweryourself/slideshow1_ss_wellbeing_fearless/1

compliments of Oprah!

3.09.2009

Are You Soaring?

Can you believe we are already ten weeks into the year? Before the beginning of 2009 we took time to examine our lives and articulate what dreams we had for 2009. We set personal and professional goals for ourselves. How are you doing in relation to the goals you set for 2009? Are you soaring? If you have stumbled - remember your path towards soaring can follow the path of a kite - often the kite stumbles as it begins. Let's take some time this week to either celebrate your success or refocus your goals so that you can get the wind beneath your wings to soar. Remember as a kite becomes airborne it doesn't go up in a straight line. Rather it sways doing loops and flips as it strives to soar. Our path towards achieving our goals can often look and feel like this. Once a kite is flying high and soaring it relies on the wind to support it. However without warning the wind can disappear causing the kite to fall to the ground. We too, can be on a promising path and can have unexpected events remove the wind from our wings thus causing us to falter. It can be extremely frustrating and discouraging. Flying a kite can be a metaphor for your desire to fulfill your true potential or to, as Oprah has coined the phrase, "live your best life." It can be frustrating when all of the other kites around you seem to effortlessly glide through the air and yet you continue to hit rough patch after rough patch.

3.03.2009

3.02.2009

FREE 1-Hour Teleclass

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Why Must We Worry?

Dear Friend, Don't worry, be happy In every life we have some trouble When you worry you make it double Don't worry, be happy~Bobby McFerrin
And This, Too, Shall Pass. Life is about embracing change.
The phrase "And This, Too, Shall Pass" has numerous said origins. Some say it was engraved on a ring created by a subject of King Solomon for the King to wear to bring him out of depression. Another take says a minister revealed the phrase to an Indian Prince for the same reason. Even President Lincoln called upon the phrase. Eckhart Tolle suggests to us in A New Earth the deeper meaning of the words is that everything in life is transient - fleeting.
So, too, I suggest to you that whatever you are dealing with right now - in your professional life, in your personal life or in your social life - remember "And This, Too, Shall Pass." It is easy to get caught up in the drama of the moment. It is easy to fall victim to the unending negativity. Today it is about the economy, yesterday it was about _______________ tomorrow we shall find another mishap over which to lament.
And yet, where will this worry get us? That is just it. It uses up our energy, wastes our time, and depletes our sanity! When we fall prey to worry we relinquish our power. Did you know that over 85% of the population is worried about something? Worrying keeps us from enjoying life. Most of worrying is just wasted energy. A study in Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy found that 85 percent of the things we worry about never occur!
Make It Happen
This week I'm asking you to:
  • Take a longer perspective - look long range.
  • Evaluate each "big worry" and ask yourself, "Can I impact this situation?"
  • If yes, take action! Consider what one or two actions you can take this week to ease your worry and put you in a proactive role.
  • If not, contemplate the Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

  • Allow the phrase, "And This, Too, Shall Pass" to provide some comfort to you - that indeed the hard times will abate.

2.26.2009

How Do We Acknowledge?

Dear Friend,

You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.
~Sarah Ban Breathnach
The impact of a "Thank You," honors the intention of the donor and the gratitude of the recipient. "Thank You" acknowledges that we've been helped through the kindness and grace of another. When we show our appreciation we honor the brilliance of another and in so doing unlock some of our own brilliance. Famed professor, researcher, and father of positive psychology Dr. Martin Seligman, who I mentioned last week (last week's article), asks his students to perform the following exercise: Students are asked to think of one person whom they have never properly thanked for the impact they had on their life. Next students are asked to write a short and powerful 300-word letter to this person. This essay is to be well crafted and poignant. Once the letter is in final form, students are to call and schedule some time to visit this person. At this visit the essay is to be read aloud directly to the person. Resoundingly researchers found that the students were happier people for having performed this exercise. Dr. Seligman and his students represent one way that we can acknowledge those who have had significant impact on our lives. Other ways we can acknowledge those who have helped us: Write a Letter with Specific Details - thanking this person specifically for what they've done in your life.
  • Make a Donation of time or money in their honor to a charity near and dear to their heart
  • Record a video on your computer - thanking them for what they've done for you and e-mail it to them. You could even post it to their social networking site (LinkedIn, Facebook, MySpace.)
  • Throw a small party in their honor - have everyone write a short note to the honoree
  • Give them a plant to grow at their desk or in their yard
  • Send them a small gift that you know they would appreciate
  • Or simply give a heartfelt face-to-face "Thank You"

Make It Happen

This week use your list from last week to select one person whom you desire to thank. Consider what they've done for you and include the specifics in your thank you. Remember in honoring others we honor ourselves. In thanking others we create an atmosphere of appreciation, gratitude, and abundance. In fact, if you are feeling ambitious this week why don't you select two people to honor?! Blessings to You! Blessings to you, Margaret.

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2.17.2009

Who Do You Need to Acknowledge?

Dear Friend,
I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought,
and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.
~ G.K. Chesterton
This week we are going to focus on whom we need to acknowledge. Next week we will discuss various ways to acknowledge those who have made a difference in our lives. We have all been blessed by people in our lives personally and professionally. These are people who have guided us, supported us, nurtured us, comforted us ... People who have helped make our lives what they are today. When we celebrate the role that people have played in our life we show our gratitude and acknowledge that we are the result of others. Dr. Martin Seligman, considered one of the fathers of Positive Psychology, studies happiness. He was written several books, created a master's program in positive psychology, given countless lectures, and led the way for changing how psychology evaluates and examines people. Over the years, he and his team have developed many techniques to help enhance one's happiness. One very significant way is to express our gratitude to people who we have never properly thanked. Next week I'm going to share with you the exercises he has created for his students.
Make It Happen
Take a few moments each day this week and reflect on those to whom you are indebted. Maybe it was your 3rd grade soccer coach or maybe it was your piano teacher or your first boss. This week take time to stroll down memory lane and revisit your life. Ask yourself, "Who has enriched my life?" Search your life for people who have impacted you. Break your life in five year segments start with the last five years. You can begin this process by noting these people in your gratitude journal. Here are some figures that many of us have had in our lives. Use this list as a point of departure.
  • Teacher
  • Parent
  • Friend
  • Mentor
  • Boss
  • Colleague
  • Sibling
  • Spouse
  • Children
  • Dog
Blessings to you!

How Do Your Rituals Serve You?

Dear Friend,

"When you always do what you've always done, You always get what you've always gotten."
~Tony Robbins
Our rituals are a reflection of how we live our lives. They reflect what we do day-in and day-out. Our rituals build the fabric of our lives and contribute to the results that we desire. Last week I asked you to reexamine five to 10 rituals in your life and see if they were adding to your life in positive ways. I suggested that you consider replacing those rituals that were not positive. For example, if the ritual of getting to your office every morning, going down to the cafeteria, getting a hearty breakfast and chatting with colleagues is not working - how might you replace it? Here are a couple of suggestions:
  • Get to work early to prepare for your day
  • Change what you eat at breakfast (not who or when you eat)
  • Workout at the company gym with your colleagues rather than eating breakfast
  • Schedule a professional development breakfast once each week with different colleagues throughout the company
  • Spend your morning working from home rather than wasting precious time in highway traffic
  • Have breakfast with clients or potential clients once each week

The reason I list these examples is because I think you need to know what problem you are solving in order to get the right answer. In other words what do you want to change in your life? Without knowing what you want to change it is difficult to reconfigure your rituals in order to bolster your life. So this week let's return to our goals since they represent where we desire to be in 2009 and let's match these goals against our rituals.

Ask yourself three questions:
  • How does this ritual serve my goals?
  • Is this ritual the best way for me to achieve my goals?
  • Is this ritual sustainable?
Make It Happen
Use these three questions to examine each of your rituals in the context of your goals. Remember that this process takes time so it may take some adjustment to find the best sustainable ritual to achieve your goal. Identify and lock in accountability to help to sustain the ritual. Research shows that it can take 21 days to form a habit - so be patient, be diligent, and persevere! Remember we want to make 2009 Your Best Year and that takes appropriate planning and diligence - stay strong! Blessings to you!

2.02.2009

What Are Your Rituals?

Dear Friend,
"In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently." ~Tony Robbins
A ritual defined by Merriam Webster's is a something that is done in accordance with a "social custom or normal protocol." When we think of rituals it is easy to be drawn towards the cultural or religious rituals of particular groups such as the Maori, the Native Americans, the Aborigines, or the Celts. In each of these cultures rituals serve to define and unite the culture. There are other rituals that reflect what Webster's defines as "normal protocol." In other words a ritual can also be a habit that is fully adopted into our lives - a process or series of actions we do almost without conscious thought. Of course, at some point we thought about them, but today they flow into our lives seamlessly. Reflect back to when you were little; your parents likely helped you build many rituals such as brushing your teeth before bed, taking a bath, doing homework and so on. As adults we've built rituals into our lives. Consider your morning routine - is it pretty much the same day to day, week to week? I bet it is and that is because we are creatures of habit. Once we figure out a way of being - a ritual - that works, we stick to it. Notice I said a ritual that works versus a ritual that nourishes or fulfills. That is because often we don't take time to consciously choose our actions and habits. We build our lives through little rituals from getting up and working out or getting up and drinking coffee ... and on and on. If we reexamine our rituals and accept the ones that work for us and write down the ones that don't work for us we can take the first step to transform our life.
Make It Happen
This week make a list of five to 10 rituals in your life. (They can be as simple as waking up in the morning, how you follow up with a potential client, or attending weekly worship services.) Examine each of these rituals and consider if they support you in getting the results you desire. A couple of weeks ago I asked you to create your vision for 2009 - will your current rituals sustain the results you desire? Do you need to rethink any of your rituals? Examine your rituals with a creative eye - explore them as if this is the first time and uncover unique ways to replace negative rituals with positive, nourishing rituals that propel you forward to creating Your Best Year!
Blessings to you!

1.26.2009

Are You Making Excuses?

Dear Friend,

"Some favorite expressions of small children: "It's not my fault...They made me do it...I forgot."
Some favorite expressions of adults: "It's not my job. . . No one told me. . . It couldn't be helped." True freedom begins and ends with personal accountability." -Dan Zadra
Do any of the following sound familiar? • If I didn't have a work dinner on Thursday then I could start my diet on Monday. • If I had more money then I would be happy. • If I had more time in the day I would be able to get my projects completed • If my boss gave me more praise then I would be satisfied. • If there wasn't so much traffic then I would be on time. • If my spouse didn't travel as much then I would be able to exercise. • If I had more than one hour I could... -Clean the closet, -Write the proposal, -Organize the garage, -Take down the holiday decorations...and on and on the list goes. If any these sound familiar, then you (like me) suffer from what I call the "if only" syndrome. It is the voice in your head that says, "if only" something were different then I would be able to do what I need to do. It is easy to make excuses, to blame others, or even to shirk responsibility in the name of a loved one or even traffic! However, when we make excuses we release ourselves from accountability. We create a story of why we are justified in not doing what we know we need to do. When we stop making excuses and hold ourselves accountable for creating our own dreams, we begin to transform our lives. We transform our lives by actually achieving what we set out to do and not using others as an excuse or placing blame on them rather than ourselves.
Consider this hilarious children's poem, All My Great Excuses, by Kenn Nesbitt. Perhaps there is a lesson for us adults?
I started on my homework but my pen ran out of ink. My hamster ate my homework. My computer's on the blink. I accidentally dropped it in the soup my mom was cooking. My brother flushed it down the toilet when I wasn't looking. My mother ran my homework through the washer and the dryer. An airplane crashed into our house. My homework caught on fire. Tornadoes blew my notes away. Volcanoes struck our town. My notes were taken hostage by an evil killer clown. Some aliens abducted me. I had a shark attack. A pirate swiped my homework and refused to give it back. I worked on these excuses so darned long my teacher said, "I think you'll find it's easier to do the work instead."
Make it Happen
This week I ask that you consider how you can make your life excuse-free. Examine how you can accept accountability for getting exactly what you desire...and don't let your boss, spouse, child, or friend be the excuse for you not accomplishing a particular goal! Blessings to you, Margaret. P.S. Encourage your friends, family, and colleagues by sharing this newsletter with them and invite them to subscribe! Direct them to www.MargaretPundmann.com where they can sign up. Margaret Pundmann is a life and business coach, speaker, and author The Emerging Woman. Please feel free to forward the "Powerful Living, Powerful You" newsletter to friends and colleagues, but please forward in its entirety. The "Powerful Living, Powerful You" newsletter is written and distributed by Emerge Enterprise. Copyright © 2008 Margaret Pundmann. All rights reserved. www.MargaretPundmann.com.

1.20.2009

Accountability - 5 Questions to Answer

Dear Friend,

We (live) in a culture where accountability, learning to accept responsibility, admitting mistakes and learning is critical to us.
~Anthony Zinni
So far this year we've reviewed our lessons from 2008, built a vision for 2009, created a plan to support our vision, cleaned our slate so that we have room in our lives for our 2009 dreams and goals. This week I want to ensure we have accountability to reach our goals. As much as we need to be diligent and persevere there will be times when we lose focus of our vision. In these times we need to have appropriate accountability to support us in regaining focus. In fact according to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, people who attend meetings lose three times more weight than those who go at it alone! What this means is that when we have support we are more likely to achieve our goals. This week I want to ask you to consider what accountability you can build into your life that will support you in attaining your goals.
5 Questions to Consider
Who in my life will support my vision?
Friends Family Loved Ones Coach Colleagues Trainer Mentor
What activities will serve as accountability?
If your goal is Business Growth Activities that may hold you accountable: initiating a specific number of sales calls each day, attending valuable networking events each week or month, following-up with potential clients If your goal is Volunteer Work/Cleaning-Up Tasks Activities that may hold you accountable: scheduling the dates/times of your work-hours every four weeks, finding inspiring activites, scheduling a party, cleaning up to your favorite music or a book on tape If your goal is Weight Loss Activities that may hold you accountable: hiring a personal trainer, attending group meetings, creating a food journal, exercising with a friend or in a group If your goal is Balance Activities that may hold you accountable: creating a schedule of when you will work and when you will spend time with family, setting reminders on your calendar, before you say 'Yes' to a new project take 24 hours to consider if this is consistent with all of your goals
When will I have accomplished my goal?
We need specific measurable results to know we've reached our end pointThis means a desired revenue number, a desired weight, a goal of how many hours we will have volunteered, a specific plan for what areas of our home, office, or car must be de-cluttered Consider some goals may need an end date to aim for as a target Why is this goal important to me - what is my underlying motivation for achieving this goal?
Consider writing a letter to yourself about why each of your goals are significant to you and what each of them mean to you For each goal know what your larger motivation is and create a reminder of your motivation - with a picture, with writing, or even little notes around your home
How will I celebrate once I've achieve my goal?
Celebration locks in our success and can act as a "carrot" so to speak encouraging us to persevere Create a plan of what your celebration will be. If you have a larger goal - allow yourself to have mini-celebrations along the way
Make It Happen
This week take some time to review each of your goals in the context of the five questions above. The fundamental question is, "who or what will provide accountability to keep me on track to reach my goals"! Think creatively to establish the appropriate accountability in your life so that you may accomplish your goals and make 2009 Your Best Year! Blessings to you, Margaret.